To my sweet boy,
Man oh man do I love! I’m so glad God picked me to be your mama. You bring so much joy and laughter to our family. I can’t believe you’re turning six soon. Although I sometimes wish you could stay little forever, I know that your future is bright. This is all good news but there is some bad news. The bad news is that we live in a dark and cold place. In fact, I would argue that each day it’s progressively getting worse. Your dad and I are committed to helping prepare you for life as you grow up. You’ll make mistakes along the way but our hope is that you will find the resilience within yourself to keep moving forward. We believe in you and we are rooting for you. Here’s some advice I hope you open your heart to.
-The most important thing is to keep Jesus #1. He gave his life for you because he loves you deeply. He has the perfect plan for your life and if you trust in him he won’t let you down. He will guide you every step of the way.
-Guard your heart because everything you do flows from it. The things you allow into your heart can be very damaging to you. You need to remain vigilant. Be careful with what you see, hear, and feel. One big thing is pornography. Porn addiction is a real thing. It’s becoming more and more acceptable in our world but let me be clear, porn use is toxic. Porn kills love! Don’t let the world tell you otherwise.
-There will come a time when you’ll start to notice girls and will want to start dating. The best advice I can give you is to treat every girl like they’re someone else’s wife. This is so incredibly important. I know this may seem counter intuitive but make it a priority. It’s highly unlikely you will marry the first girl you date so you need to treat every girl with respect and dignity.
-Chivalry is not dead. While I think women are strong and capable, I equally think men should be gentlemen. Open doors, pay for dinners, buy flowers, etc. Do these things, not because women aren’t capable but because women are worth going the extra mile for. Doing these things does not make you weak or soft, they make you great. Nice guys don’t finish last, they finish strong.
-Your dad is a stud! I’m telling you that because you look just like him. You are so handsome. There may come a time when someone tells you otherwise. Do your best to ignore it because what they think doesn’t matter. But if your self image does ever start to bother you, turn to someone you trust and talk it out.
-Practice good hygiene. I know this is such a mom thing to suggest but for real, shower regularly. Brush your teeth. Wear deodorant. Wear clean clothes. Do me, your friends, your teachers, and pretty much everyone a favor and have good hygiene. Your future wife will thank me.
-Your dad is one of the hardest workers I’ve ever met. Follow in his footsteps. You will probably work most of your adult life and strong work ethics will be vital to your long term success. Stay focused. Work hard. Go the extra mile. And always stay humble.
-Learn how to use tools to fix and build things. Your dad is the best at this and he’d love to teach you. Never underestimate the ability to hang a frame or build a desk. Your dad has done both of these things for me and I’m super thankful for it. And think of the money you’ll save. Well, you probably don’t understand this now but when you’re older you’ll get it. Hiring people to fix your stuff is expensive.
-Be good to your sisters. They love you and even though you guys fight, always remember that they will be your longest friends in life. They are your family. Protect them and love them well. You will be one of the first men in their lives to show them love, you need to model exactly what they should be looking for in a man.
I’m so thankful you are my son. Your dad and I love you so much and we are so excited to watch you grow into a fine young man. Life is messy and hard but we believe in you and we are always here for you. If you ever feel like you can’t come to us, turn to the people who have invested you in. You have a army of strong, kind, and confident men in your life who love you.
Oh, and always call you mom!